Feminists are supposed to respect and not bash others based on their personal choices. Is it safe to say...?

Yes, it's safe to say that SOME people who call themselves feminist will fall victim to believing in stereotypes and say insulting things. However, you seem to be obsessing over a few isolated incidents. On the first question, everyone else gave you a decent and respectful answer. Only one person said something rude. So, is it really a big deal?Yes, they'll always be jerks in the world., and every group is going to have it's share. Get used to it.